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When talking about a human being, we must be aware that we are talking about a being that connects the biological nature (body, senses and instinct), spiritual nature and social (social) nature or sphere. In society and in the family, a person "creates" certain modes of behavior, which he calibrates and at the same time accepts social and family values, principles and patterns of behavior, which is internal in himself and thus followed by his whole life. It is repeatedly introduced into social life and is taught in it to act as a social (cultural) being, which can be perceived in the process of socialization. Haralambos and Holborn define socialization as a process where people "learn the culture of their own society" (Haralambos and Holborn 1999, 12) and are not confined to childhood alone, but last for life.


Socialization is a process in which an individual is introduced into the objective world of society in various ways and in which he becomes a member (Čačinovič-Vogrinčič 1998, 23). According to Musek, socialization has an impact on the personality of a person, since its outcome is "a person who knows social demands and culture, and who also understands social and cultural rules critically and participates in their transformation" (Musek 1993, 336).





The most important sphere of the socialization process is the primary socialization that takes place during the childhood, most often in the context of the family (Haralambos and Holborn 1999, 12). Primary socialization is an environment that establishes and stabilizes security, warmth and mutual support among family members - this environment or context can only be guaranteed by the family.

In the primary socialization, we unify and internalize the culture of society, which also involves the structuring of an individual's personality. Čačinovič-Vogrinčič in the article Psychology of the Family writes that in the primary socialization the child's world is constructed (Vogrinčič 1998, 24). In this world, children gain confidence in others, those others that are important to him, and the fact that the world is as determined by him. With primary socialization, secondary socialization is also influenced by people, which is carried out at a later age, when the family no longer participates actively, but other factors influence the person - a school or a peer group (Haralambos and Holborn 1990, 330). Among peers, the child, through interactions with others and children's games, learns how to adapt to the way in which he behaves in a certain way, being aware of the fact that social life is based on rules and norms that need to be respected and taken into account. External factors of self-respect are important others that help us to realize the sense of value, importance, respect, and affiliation or connection. These people are "not" part of the primary family, but eventually become part of it, so we will then look at the influence of important others on everyday life, and even before the interpretation of primary and secondary socialization.


Primary socialization refers to an early childhood that takes place in a family in which we internalize the norms and values ​​that apply in a society. When we accept them for ourselves, these become our personal principles and principles that direct us, especially in a family that has its own rules. At the time of growing up, and in adulthood, other factors, such as school (teachers and educators), catechists peers and peer groups, neighbors, friends, partners, the working environment, the media and others (musicians, film actors) , Internet and related social networks (facebook, twitter, etc.). In the process of socialization (primary and secondary), we incorporate certain "rules" and the norms and values ​​that we acquire in the family and society. However, it happens that the rules and (internal norms) are violated, and then "bake us" or "bake us". we experience feelings of guilt, before ourselves and others. Thus, it is "affected" our self-esteem, we are confronted with a lack of self-confidence, we are perceived as inferior, incompetent. Especially during the time of growing up (in puberty), which is a sensitive time when we are looking for an identity. It is therefore important that we maintain an independent and critical thinking that we "think" with our own head, and let our sons let others influence us in a negative sense, because we are unique, unique and unrepeatable and thus "preserve" our personality and autonomy.


Even in religions, there are norms and rules for human "ethical" practices or behaviors against and under whose members are members. There are provisions on the moral, right and good deeds that are expressed in Christianity in the ten commandments God gave to Moses in the Old Testament and in the New Testament with Jesus' command of love and other teachings (speech on the mountain) to his disciples. If we break them, we move away from God, we become more susceptible to sin, which results in a penalty (loss of self-esteem, feelings of guilt, a break with the covenant with God, etc.)




Samples of self-esteem are developed at an early stage - in primary socialization - in parents who have a role that is crucial in forming a child's self-image, and later with relatives, peers, friends and role models, etc. (secondary socialization). In primary socialization - in the first years of the child's life and later at the time of growing up, relationships with peers from which they learn a lot are of paramount importance. With their help, children acquire the ability to communicate, control the emotions, support conflict resolution and the ability to cooperate, which help them to make friendships and keep them, which prevents psychological, behavioral and emotional problems in later life (Samar Brenčič 2010).



In the book, Christian Gostečnik (I met my family) wrote that the family is "the most intimate space where the deepest feelings of the affection of love and interconnection are expressed." In our family, we explore and discover who and what we are, and what we want in life. We learn the basic human language, the ways of connecting, mutually agreeing, accepting different opinions, resolving conflicts, expressing emotions, recognizing our character, testing one another with our power and influence on others "(Gostečnik 1999, 185).


"The family is formed by two individuals or formed by several individuals who are connected in interaction with each other and regulate their life, have the same motives and goals, they are joined by common rules, norms and values; relations in it exudate and determines a relatively permanent structure of statuses and roles. In the family, a well-known power structure and method of leadership is formed for it; a relatively durable network of communications and the statuses and roles of individual members are formed in it; Differentiate (differences arise) the applications according to the division of labor; emotional relations between members are distinguished "(Čačinovič-Vogrinčič 1992, 130).


The family is a place where, according to Gostečnik's words, the most important stories of life are played, and that this is a "holy" place marked by the most violent experiences that forever imprint their seal on all members of the family. In the family, we learn general behavioral patterns, for the first time we feel the depths of intimacy, affection, loneliness, hotness, desire, or redundancy, discarding and not being in the family. To this point, we are always returning to this fundamental experience, since exactly this feeling and thinking created by the family is determined in all our later actions. The home family determines and defines us and marks the very foundations of our existence. The family will remain an essential part of our everyday experiencing and creating interpersonal relationships.


A family is a basic core environment - a cell where a person forms his own self-esteem and identity. When personally evolving and forming self-awareness, among other things, he also creates his own self-image and identity, and could not be without a family, without contacting and linking with people who are close to us and are important for our lives - our parents, partner and children. The family is important for the individual's development of personality, in the principle of biological, social and spiritual activity. In the family, an individual realizes his essence - himself as a person, as a being of social and spiritual understanding (Musek 1995, 19).



As a family, the family is the first step in the child's social world (parents), which with its specificities affects the child's social world and all stages of the development of his personality. It is important to know and to know that the parents of the child's world are modified twice, first by belonging to a particular culture, and secondly by their personal life history (Čačinovič-Vogrinčič 1998, 23).


The family is important, it affects the individual, it provides a safe environment where parents have emotional security that is shared and shared by the rest of the family (Haralambos and Holborn 1999, 330).


The family is also important for the individual's emotional security, involvement, involvement in a circle of trust and respect among individual members of the family. The family also plays a key role in the individual's identity formation, where an individual develops his personality, his identity and self-image. Musek further argues that the family has an extremely strong role in all societies and cultures where family and family life have the status of values ​​and sacreds - in which the basic roles of the human being, the sexual and generational role of men and women are involved (Musek 1995, 19 ).

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